How You Hold Power Is the Point
- Nikki Milgate
- Feb 25
- 3 min read
Power is unavoidable in leadership.

Stewardship determines what you do with it.
In an AI-accelerated world, power no longer looks only like title or authority. It shows up as access to information, control over tools, influence on decisions, and the ability to set pace. Leaders may not feel powerful, but the system experiences them as such.
And that makes how power is held far more important than how much of it exists.
Power Has Changed—Responsibility Hasn’t
AI has compressed decision cycles. Data is more available. Automation enables leaders to move quickly, sometimes without realizing how little context others have. This creates a new risk: decisions that are technically sound but relationally damaging.
Stewarded leaders recognize that power carries weight even when intentions are good.
They understand that silence communicates just as clearly as direction. That speed can feel like exclusion. That “efficiency” without explanation often reads as disregard.
Stewardship asks leaders to slow down long enough to notice the impact of their authority.
Transparency Is a Use of Power
One of the most responsible uses of power is transparency.
Stewarded leaders explain not just what is happening, but why. They share context rather than hiding behind technical language or executive privilege. They name constraints and trade-offs instead of pretending every decision is optimal.
In global transformation work, this often determines whether trust is built or eroded. When leaders hoard information “until it’s final,” teams fill the gaps with fear and assumption. When leaders share early context, even imperfectly, people stay engaged.
Transparency doesn’t weaken authority. It strengthens it.
Knowing When to Step In and When to Step Back
Power is not proven by constant involvement.
In coaching, the temptation to correct every move is strong, especially when you can see what others can’t yet see. But over-coaching creates dependency. I see this as a coach on the volleyball court when my girls look to the me on the bench after every single play. I would rather them look to each other at the end of a play and when they consistently look to me, that informs me that I need to be quiet and let them work through it. They are ready, they are prepared, they know what they are doing, but I am over-coaching and creating an environment where they are becoming dependent on me, the coach. The same is true in leadership.

Stewarded leaders resist over-functioning. They step in when clarity, protection, or accountability is needed, and step back when growth requires space.
In AI-enabled environments, the ability to automate decisions makes restraint even more important. Just because a leader can decide faster doesn’t mean they should. Building capability matters more than demonstrating control.
Power Used Poorly Feels Like Pressure
When power is misused, people experience:
Confusion instead of clarity
Fear instead of motivation
Compliance instead of commitment
This often shows up as “resistance,” disengagement, or quiet withdrawal. Stewardship recognizes these as signals, not attitude problems.
Leaders who steward power well, pay attention to how their presence changes the room. They notice who stops speaking, who withdraws, and who becomes overly agreeable.
These are not personal quirks. They are responses to power.
What Stewarded Use of Power Looks Like
Stewardship is visible when leaders:
Share context before issuing direction
Invite questions without defensiveness
Make decisions clearly, and explain them
Use authority to protect, not intimidate
Create conditions for others to lead

The measure of leadership is not how advanced your tools are or how quickly you can act.
It is how responsibly you hold influence—and how safe others feel engaging with it.
Reflection Prompt
How does your power show up in the system, and what might change if you held it with greater intention?
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